Kathie Gagne died 4,510 days ago.

Christmas Eve, 2013
December 24th, 2013 @ 9:53 am

Kathleen A. GagneThis will be our second Christmas without mom. I still miss her so much that it hurts.

I wrote a little bit about our Christmas Eve traditions on my personal website last year.

I wish I had more photos of our Christmas trees. You know what I never seem to see any more? Tinsel. We used to get those packages of thin strips of metallic silver tinsel and mom would always make us wait until the tree was completely decorated before we could add it. For some reason I loved doing that, and I can still remember her laughing at me one year while I danced around the tree tossing tinsel into the air and watching it flitter and flutter onto the needles.

Missed Connections
December 20th, 2013 @ 8:46 am

TelephoneI received a voice mail from Marla Rawnsley on December 20th, 2013. She attempted to return my call while I was traveling for the holidays and I missed it. Marla said, “Hey David. This is Marla returning your call. It’s about 11:45 here. Uhm, I can be reached here until one o’clock today and then otherwise I’m pretty much missing ’til Monday, but, uhm, this number’s (386) [redacted]. Thanks. Bye.”

I wasn’t able to return her call until the day after Christmas. I called her at about ten to nine on December 26th, but her office was closed and my call simply went to the receptionist’s voice mail.

Checking In
December 18th, 2013 @ 10:00 am

TelephoneI called Marla Rawnsley at ten o’clock while driving to work. Jan the receptionist told me that she was out at lunch and suggested I leave a voice mail, which I did.

I said, “Hey, Marla. It’s David Gagne just calling to check in.” I left my phone number twice and asked her to give me a call.

Still Looking for Answers
December 13th, 2013 @ 8:57 am

In the middle of December 2013, I made another trip to the local FedEx office to photocopy and fax a copy of mom’s autopsy report for Marla Rawnsley of Pappas, Russell, & Rawnsley. Then I sent her the following email:

 
 
Incomplete
December 12th, 2013 @ 11:06 am

Just before eleven o’clock in the morning of December 12th, 2013, Marla Rawnsley replied to my email from December 5th:

 
 

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Double the Frustration
December 12th, 2013 @ 8:08 am

TelephoneDealing with two law firms means twice the opportunity to be frustrated.

On my drive to work on the morning of December 12, 2013 — 486 days after the death of my mother — I called both Marla Rawnsley and Frank Ashton.

I called Marla because on November 25th she told me she’d get back to me, “in twenty-four to forty-eight hours, one way or the other,” regarding her review of the two tremendous packages of documentation I spent $180.00 to photocopy and FedEx to her two weeks before that. (I had specifically wanted to talk to her because Thanksgiving was approaching.) I was told that she was on a conference call and unavailable, but I could leave her a voice mail. I said that I had left her a voice mail last night and asked Jan, the woman who had answered the phone, if she thought Marla would reply to that or if I should leave another voice mail. Jan suggested I leave another voice mail, so I did. Once again I left my name and number — repeated thrice — and asked Marla to return my call.

Then I called Frank to ask him for an update. He had told me that it would take at least a month or two for his researchers to review the documentation I’d sent him, and it had been at least a month. The receptionist at his office said he was unavailable and suggested I leave him a voice mail, so I did.

Trying Again
December 11th, 2013 @ 10:04 am

TelephoneAs of December 11th, 2013, it had been over two full weeks since Marla Rawnsley said she’d get back to me in 24 to 48 hours, and just shy of one week since I emailed her to ask for an update.

So I called her office to see if I could get her on the phone. Someone named Jan answered the phone at Pappas, Russell & Rawnsley. I asked to speak with Marla and Jan asked me if I was a client. I said that I was and she asked me to hold. Less than a minute later she returned to tell me that Marla was out of the office.

Jan asked me if I’d like to leave her a voice mail and I asked if it would be okay if I called back. She said that Marla had likely gone to lunch and had left the office about ten minutes ago. I asked Jan if she was going to return to the office. Jan said Marla’s assistant was out sick, said she checked Marla’s calendar and saw that she had nothing scheduled for the afternoon, and that she would probably return after two-thirty. I said I’d try again in an hour and a half.


Due to circumstances beyond my control, I was unable to try calling Marla again until almost two o’clock, which is the end of the day on the East coast. I called and asked for her and was told she’d already left for the day. The woman who answered the phone asked if she could put me through to her voice mail and I said, “Okay.”

After a moment I heard an electronic voice instructing me to leave a message for extension 310. I said, “Hello, Marla. This is David Gagne. G-A-G-N-E. I’m calling about my mother, Kathleen Gagne.” I repeated my phone number twice and said, “Thank you,” and hung up.

Happy Holidays
December 9th, 2013 @ 11:11 am

Happy HolidaysShortly after mom died, when I was desperate to find anyone who would give me some advice, I spoke with someone at the law firm of Warner & Warner: Personal Injury Attorneys in Casselberry, FL. I had a very long conversation with this person, often in tears, during which I detailed how my mom had been treated by the assisted living facility where she died and the problems I was having while trying to get her doctor to state the cause of her death.

They were unable to help me, and sent me two separate letters stating that over the following months. That was the last I’d heard from anyone there.

I was quite surprised this weekend when, at my house in Los Angeles, I received a Christmas card addressed to my mother. The message reads, “Season’s Greetings and Best Wishes for a Happy New Year from all of us at WARNER + WARNER”

It’s signed, “Wishing you a happy and healthy 2014!” by Scott and Debbie Warner.

Another Desperate Plea
December 5th, 2013 @ 11:55 am
 
 
Risperdal on The Daily Show
December 5th, 2013 @ 9:55 am

The Daily ShowLast night on The Daily Show there was a segment about the Johnson & Johnson case I mentioned a few weeks ago. Jon Stewart noted how absurd it was that a corporation could simply “get away” with bribing doctors to prescribe useless and / or harmful medications to the elderly, disabled, and children. At one point you could clearly see a bottle of Risperdal on the screen.

It was the first time I ever cried while watching The Daily Show. I just can’t believe it’s been 479 days since she died and I can’t get anyone at all to care.