I sent this email to my sister: Hey [name redacted], I just got off the phone with the State of Florida pension fund place. It appears that what happened is that they canceled the transfer because they thought I was a jerk. They also locked mom’s account. So now I definitely have to get Power […]
Here is an email I sent to one of my old college friends in the spring of 2012. His wife and her family work in the medical profession and had been offering me a bit of advice about mom. From: Gagne, David To: [redacted] Subject: Re: Treatment Team Meeting 2.28.12 Sent: March 20, 2012 […]
My sister and I had a forty-three minute conference call with doctors, nurses, discharge coordinators, and administrators at Halifax Hospital. Dr. Caliendo talked to me as if I was a dumb ten-year old and I felt insulted and embarrassed, at times in tears during the call. Less than six months later, my mother would be […]
Here is an email I sent to my friend’s father-in-law, who works in the elder care industry and who had been offering me some advice. From: Gagne, David To: [redacted] Subject: Re: Questions for Monday Sent: March 2, 2012 3:41 AM ET Hello, [redacted], Thank you so, so much. I cannot possibly describe to […]
About six months before mom died, my friend’s father-in-law wrote me a very nice email offering some of his contacts to potentially help us navigate the process of dealing with Medicaid and nursing homes, etc. From: [redacted] To: Gagne, David Subject: RE: Questions for Monday Sent: March 1, 2012 1:16 PM EST David: I’m […]
Near the end of February of 2012, an old and dear friend from college suggested I email his wife and her dad with some details about mom’s condition in the hopes that they might be able to offer some advice. Here is the email I sent them: From: Gagne, David To: [redacted] Subject: My […]
From: Gagne, Jennifer To: Gagne, David Subject: Thoughts Sent: December 29, 2011 2:37 PM ET Hey, David. I spoke with Dr. Shoemaker’s assistant. All they have are the results from the previous CT-Scan. To get the films and the results, we have to call Halifax Medical, but they will not release them to us […]
In the summer of 2010, shortly before everything really went to hell, I wrote an email to a friend of mom’s from her church who was trying to help her. I had been doing my best to try to manage mom’s finances from 3,000 miles away, but it was a monumental task and I was […]
I recently found something my mom wrote and signed, dated June 7, 2010. It’s in her usual handwriting, and under her signature is someone else’s, listed as a witness. It reads: 6/7/2010 I, Kathleen A. Gagne, give permission for the following people to see my records related to my memory loss. Dr. Shoemaker Dr. […]