Mom’s Finances
March 27th, 2012 @ 11:27 am

I sent this email to my sister: Hey [name redacted], I just got off the phone with the State of Florida pension fund place. It appears that what happened is that they canceled the transfer because they thought I was a jerk. They also locked mom’s account. So now I definitely have to get Power […]

A Bit of Hope
March 20th, 2012 @ 12:11 pm

Here is an email I sent to one of my old college friends in the spring of 2012. His wife and her family work in the medical profession and had been offering me a bit of advice about mom.   From: Gagne, David To: [redacted] Subject: Re: Treatment Team Meeting 2.28.12 Sent: March 20, 2012 […]

A Terrible Conference Call
March 2nd, 2012 @ 5:40 am

My sister and I had a forty-three minute conference call with doctors, nurses, discharge coordinators, and administrators at Halifax Hospital. Dr. Caliendo talked to me as if I was a dumb ten-year old and I felt insulted and embarrassed, at times in tears during the call. Less than six months later, my mother would be […]

March 2nd, 2012 @ 3:41 am

Here is an email I sent to my friend’s father-in-law, who works in the elder care industry and who had been offering me some advice.   From: Gagne, David To: [redacted] Subject: Re: Questions for Monday Sent: March 2, 2012 3:41 AM ET Hello, [redacted], Thank you so, so much. I cannot possibly describe to […]

RE: Questions for Monday
March 1st, 2012 @ 10:16 am

About six months before mom died, my friend’s father-in-law wrote me a very nice email offering some of his contacts to potentially help us navigate the process of dealing with Medicaid and nursing homes, etc.   From: [redacted] To: Gagne, David Subject: RE: Questions for Monday Sent: March 1, 2012 1:16 PM EST David: I’m […]

My Mom
February 24th, 2012 @ 10:28 pm

Near the end of February of 2012, an old and dear friend from college suggested I email his wife and her dad with some details about mom’s condition in the hopes that they might be able to offer some advice. Here is the email I sent them:   From: Gagne, David To: [redacted] Subject: My […]

A Long, Long Conference Call
January 5th, 2012 @ 11:20 am

Sophia Mas called from Stewart-Marchman with mom in the room with her on speakerphone, and we conferenced in my sister. Sophia began the call by saying that it was time for mom to go somewhere else. She said that yesterday she met with a “lady” who was an administrator at Lakewood. Sophia noted that all […]

December 29th, 2011 @ 2:37 pm

  From: Gagne, Jennifer To: Gagne, David Subject: Thoughts Sent: December 29, 2011 2:37 PM ET Hey, David. I spoke with Dr. Shoemaker’s assistant. All they have are the results from the previous CT-Scan. To get the films and the results, we have to call Halifax Medical, but they will not release them to us […]

Overdraft Charges on Mom’s Account
July 22nd, 2010 @ 6:28 pm

In the summer of 2010, shortly before everything really went to hell, I wrote an email to a friend of mom’s from her church who was trying to help her. I had been doing my best to try to manage mom’s finances from 3,000 miles away, but it was a monumental task and I was […]

June 7th, 2010 @ 11:19 pm

I recently found something my mom wrote and signed, dated June 7, 2010. It’s in her usual handwriting, and under her signature is someone else’s, listed as a witness. It reads:   6/7/2010 I, Kathleen A. Gagne, give permission for the following people to see my records related to my memory loss. Dr. Shoemaker Dr. […]