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Florida cut $100 million from its mental hospitals. Chaos quickly followed.

September 22nd, 2015 @ 10:00 am

Today would have been mom’s sixty-seventh birthday. My sister and I are going to take my son to Walt Disney World for the day. I think that would have made her happy. In the car on the way to school yesterday, he asked me how old mom was going to be. I said she would […]

The African Queen
August 27th, 2015 @ 8:48 am

Mom loved the movie The African Queen. I remember she was very excited when I went to see it at a small theater when I was in college. Today is the birthday of C.S. Forester, the author of the book upon which the movie is based, who wrote: When a man who is drinking neat […]

Three Years
August 12th, 2015 @ 5:18 pm

It is somewhat ironic that one of the ways I remember mom is by making sure to have at least one piece of chocolate every day. She struggled — battled, fought, really — with her weight for her whole life and always considered herself an ugly duckling. She never knew how much we really loved […]

Don’t Tell People
May 19th, 2015 @ 8:24 am

It’s been over a thousand days since mom died and I am still finding scribbled, unsent letters and postcards of hers in manila folders and spiral notebooks that seem threateningly infinite. I frequently curse her for not adding dates to things, so many, many of them are impossible to fix in the timeline of her […]

Things No Grieving Person Wants to Hear (and What to Say Instead)